tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-853682237352618533.post7393647155586923631..comments2024-02-10T03:14:06.389-05:00Comments on Shell Shock Serenade: Could You Forgive Your Rapist?thormoohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14453569102275795203noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-853682237352618533.post-90994110760552400562011-05-07T03:57:09.123-04:002011-05-07T03:57:09.123-04:00I think you will do well in the process. I know it...I think you will do well in the process. I know it won't be easy. I don't know what or how I would even start - but I can clearly tell you have taken that first step...amazing. And having God along will definitely help - he changes things. He opens us up and makes it rain clean water inside of us to wipe out all of the darkness. Good luck my friend!Shazam7https://www.blogger.com/profile/13032666324397814902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-853682237352618533.post-58123627451092176682011-05-06T19:02:23.808-04:002011-05-06T19:02:23.808-04:00Sunny, Yes of course your right in that we do this...Sunny, Yes of course your right in that we do this for ourselves. I had another comment on my Facebook link that suggested that too and I responded that I know that in my head but something down deeps wants to hold onto to that anger. As if that will "make them pay". I am not ashamed that I want revenge, I want them to pay, to hurt, to question their man hood for 30 plus years. But then I realize that everyone of those men could have died years ago and I'm still holding onto this bag of MANURE (Thank U for that!) and it's really starting to stink!<br /><br />It is a process..I know myself well enough to realize that if I'm posting about this on Shell Shock, something is happening inside, changes are under way and they will be positive.<br /><br />I don't want to appear to be acting the Martyr...but I do feel strongly about the need to RIP the fucking door off this closet of silence that surrounds so many of us who have suffered from this type of Trauma...and so I share the struggle along the way. <br /><br />Thank you for your help in instigating this latest bit of forward movement in the journey towards forgiveness!thormoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14453569102275795203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-853682237352618533.post-88059823746547680942011-05-06T18:53:47.053-04:002011-05-06T18:53:47.053-04:00Mitzi, Thank you for your comments, it is always c...Mitzi, Thank you for your comments, it is always comforting to know that we aren't alone in this endeavor. I believe you are right in that we need to find a way to forgive.<br /><br />It's funny..on one hand it isn't easy to write a posts such as this yet I am now at a place in my healing and recovery that it almost comes out on it's own. I've also developed this detached way of talking about it as if I'm speaking about someone else! Not sure if that form of self-protection is actually healthy or not but it allows me to be open and share these difficult details.<br /><br />Thank you again for your kind words...thormoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14453569102275795203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-853682237352618533.post-1139011928605737672011-05-06T18:06:28.754-04:002011-05-06T18:06:28.754-04:00You are doing so well! Focus on forgiving for you,...You are doing so well! Focus on forgiving for you, not for them. Its like the saying about taking poison and expecting the other person to die. Forgiveness is letting go of the poison. Thats all. It's not excusing what those people did to you..its just letting go the anger over what might have been. Letting go of the crazy driving "what ifs." It's a process. Never easy, but worth investing in nonetheless. It's an investment in your life. You deserve it. Life is good. Free yourself so you can enjoy it. Breathe. You are still here for a reason. Forgiveness will help you find it.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04017619331927690093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-853682237352618533.post-32209647703619036232011-05-06T16:45:14.815-04:002011-05-06T16:45:14.815-04:00WOW! "many years of repressing the memory of...WOW! "many years of repressing the memory of what had happened to me on that day" Says it all...and you are definitely NOT alone on that one...I don't think we have to actually get 'in their face' and tell them we forgive them, but in our own heart, for our own personal healing...we have to find a way to forgive them. No easy feat for certain. But a worthwhile one for our own personal growth & healing. Excellent post! One I am certain was not easy to write. (((Hugs)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com