Friday, November 16, 2012
A Whisper Of Confusion
Opinion...what people think/feel about something or someone and how we think and/feel about ourselves is a tricky and often painful process. Not because someone's poor opinion of you means they are correct but hey, most of us want to be liked and appreciated. I also think people send messages...some unintentional and some definitely with a purpose....making this whole opinion thing often a real cluster....MESS.
Facebook, twitter, text, email and other social media type outlets/tools... can really complicate matters because people can say things this way without having to face the subject of their comment or any real consequences. It's easier to be rude, cruel, forgetful, manipulative, etc. when you are not communicating face to face with a real live person.
Plus with the written word...it is quite easy to misinterpret a writers true intention/meaning and without the ability to hear someones vocal inflection and look at their facial expressions, it can be nearly impossible to verify the meaning of confusing language and as a result things can really get taken out of context and be misunderstood. Then we start to ASSUME what someone meant and a communication on FaceBook that was meant as a compliment gets taken as an insult and hurts another persons feelings. And the hurt recipient responds negatively and it can all take on a life of it's own.
And as a society we are finding it way too easy to communicate this way and do so even when we could talk to someone in person or at least on the phone. There is less a sense of responsibility and honesty it seems in texting or Face-Booking compared to talking to another person. I think its a total cop out...to communicate important matters in this fashion and I even had a woman I was involved with for a short time after my divorce, break up with me via text...what a joke, it's classless & gutless.
With the almost complete reliance on technology now I think we will eventually be a nation of people who are ill at ease talking to one another in person...and how sad that circumstance will be.
This post took a little different tack then I expected and I still feel like I have some things left to say about people and their opinions...about themselves in particular. I'm sure all of you out there will be holding your breath waiting for that baby to pop out...